Growing up, no matter my age, I always knew that I wanted to be a working professional. I don’t make that statement in the context of a feminist or an individual who needs to “prove” her self-worth. My conviction is based on an inherent attitude and mindset that makes me no better or worse than any other woman by comparison. What I always viewed as necessary - having an identity independent of my husband’s; one based on my own talents and abilities. I realized from the beginning of my career that having this identity was paramount to any other aspect of my professional life.

I understand the aforementioned revelation well. It is no surprise to me, however, that I get asked frequently by friends, peers, and industry colleagues why I choose to work. The question always seems foreign to me, but once that concept is processed and understood, I’m further asked to explain how I manage my professional life and my personal life.  Managing my career and home life is complicated. That said, it is not only possible, it is completely worthwhile. To respond to the question of skeptics, the answer is clear- to succeed, you must get out of your own way.

I’ve learned a great deal from my own experience. Unfortunately, when I began my career, there was no “how to guide” illustrating steps I could take to be a mother and a successful working woman. Based on my experience, I offer the following suggestions:

1. Set A Goal- Do you want to have a high-powered career but still be present for your family? Do you have financial goals based on timelines?  Do you want to own your own business?
2. Make A Plan- Establish a realistic timeline. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to adjust your timeline if necessary.
3. Be Creative- Separate work hours from non-work hours. If it’s in your budget, hire an assistant. Delegate tasks when appropriate and prioritize tasks you must complete yourself.
4. Execute- Be diligent and focused, and endure when things get hard (because they will). Be confident in your knowledge and abilities. Most importantly, remember that situations are what you make of them and you will succeed if you are determined to.

Figuring out how to master the balance can be difficult but there are techniques that you can use to make your life easier. In my case, I have learned that it’s not only possible to have a corporate position while maintaining a family, it is quite rewarding.